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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, October 2019, Butlers In the Media

Butlers in the Media

by Steven Ferry

Several articles this month quoted the usual “butler” doing real butlers no favors by mouthing off about the British Royal Family.

And now another butler is putting the profession in a bad light by spilling the beans on famous guests who once visited his former employer. The fact that this employer was a convicted pedophile makes this butler going public at this point in time “too little too late”: A prosecutor in Paris is currently looking into allegations of abuse of girls as young as 12, and yet this butler, who worked for that employer for 18 years, says of “the numerous very young, very thin and very tall girls” who visited, that he “believed none were under-age and everything was above board.”

Given that this employer’s butler in the US was very much aware of the goings on and even kept a little black book that he attempted to use for his own ends, it is unlikely that the French butler was not aware of what was going on; it’s unfortunate that he did not have the decency and the expected ethic level of a butler to go to the police on his own initiative.

Instead, he compounds his destructiveness by irresponsibly talking to the media about the guests who visited his former employer, making them guilty by association—whereas they may simply have been visiting for a cup of coffee and to talk business.

On the positive side, those who have and continue to represent the profession in a good light include Mr. Rick Fink, covered in this article. He may or may not be the “Last Great Butler,” as the article claims, but he is certainly one of the few remaining old-school butlers upon whose basic know-how of the role of the traditional butler the profession bases itself today.

The same magazine has another good article on the profession that depicts it accurately, although one person quoted talks of “commercial” butlers versus private-service butlers: A true understanding of the profession would see the fundamentals stretching across both hospitality and private-service butlers and would not feel it necessary to denigrate half the butlers who work hard every day around the world. Yes, they may be short on training and experience in fine estates, but they are at least on the road of superior service and could probably teach even the traditional butlers a thing or two about service—starting with a small dose of humility.

An excellent article on the need for soft-skills training in the hospitality world (applies to private service, too).

And a couple of articles showing how technology is taking over in hotels and the Chinese hotel manned by robots. “The one-meter high robot … an artificial intelligence (AI) system, follows guests around, takes orders, helps to buy groceries, orders meals, and picks up laundry through voice command, touch, or simple gestures.” Concierge and front desk are robots, too. Kitchen and cleaning staff are still humans. Why bother? The article claims: “These futuristic features are measures to increase efficiency, response time, and reducing the expensive workforce.” Presumably they mean “decrease” response time.

Lastly, we have two new misnomers this month to add to the many: “Closet Butler” and “Taxi Butler.”

The Institute is dedicated to raising service standards by broadly disseminating the mindset and superior service expertise of that time-honored, quintessential service provider, the British Butler, updated with modern people skills, and adapted to the needs of modern employers and guests in staffed homes, luxury hotels, resorts, spas, retirement communities, jets, yachts & cruise ships around the world.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, September 2019, Message from the Chairman

Steven FerryMessage from the Chairman

by Steven Ferry

The Confluence of Private and Hospitality Butler Service

This past month I have been focusing in the Maldives, and will next month in Cap Ferrat, France, on supporting privately owned, boutique hotels that are pushing the envelope on the difference between private service butlers and hospitality butlers. The level of service expected in private estates can and is being offered in public hotels—a logical and inevitable path that has been a long time in coming.

The Institute is dedicated to raising service standards by broadly disseminating the mindset and superior service expertise of that time-honored, quintessential service provider, the British Butler, updated with modern people- skills, and adapted to the needs of modern employers and guests in staffed homes, luxury hotels, resorts, spas, retirement communities, jets, yachts & cruise ships around the world.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, August 2019, Message from the Chairman

Steven FerryMessage from the Chairman

by Steven Ferry

Please Don’t Drown

The mentions of butlers in the media elsewhere in this month’s newsletter include a butler talking too freely and an ex-butler who turned out to be a pedophile. I have not included the various Hollywoodesque mentions of Alfred Pennyworth, Batman’s butler who seems to have taken over from Batman (or is it Superman or Spiderman?) as the hero of the story—a most unbutlerish thing to do!

A more important story that has been mentioned in the media, off and on, features the household manager who assisted convicted pedophile, Jeffrey Epstein, in his illegal sexual affairs. Given the little black book that was kept of the celebrities and dignitaries who may or may not have shared in Epstein’s perversions, it is likely that other butlers and household managers may be serving employers who are similarly guilty of illegal acts.

At what point does a butler turn from a loyal servant who sees, hears, and says nothing, to being a responsible member of society?

Sex is a fun subject that is natural and not something to be suppressed, or about which we should be making judgements of our employers. Different individuals and groups have different perspectives on what constitutes acceptable sex or sexual and moral behaviour. One has to know the employer’s rules as well as one’s own moral code and not cross either line.

But when the employer’s activity is patently illegal (as in the case of pedophelia) then not taking action, or even assisting, or withholding information from the authorities, is equally illegal.

And that is what Epstein’s house manager did: He cleaned up after his employer every day; turned a blind eye to the under-age sex; and furthermore, kept or stole a diary (sorry, I have not followed this story very closely) and not only withheld it from the police when they were investigating his employer, but also tried to extort money for it from the lawyer representing the plaintiffs (the under-age girls).

No doubt, this house manager (who, sadly, has since passed on) did not sign on the dotted line before being hired by his employer, agreeing to turn a blind eye to any and all illegal activities with young girls. He probably slipped slowly into this morass until he lost all moral compass. At this point, life probably became fraught with difficulty, a guilty conscience, worries about being caught, etc. This can be a lonely time as there are few who can help a person extricate themselves from this self-spun spider’s web.

If you find yourself now or in the future in such a situation, know that you can reach out to us—we are trained counsellors and specialists in ethics, and can help you find the way out of this morass/spider’s web/maze with your dignity intact and freedom still on the radar. It is certainly not worth dying over.

The Institute is dedicated to raising service standards by broadly disseminating the mindset and superior service expertise of that time-honored, quintessential service provider, the British Butler, updated with modern people- skills, and adapted to the needs of modern employers and guests in staffed homes, luxury hotels, resorts, spas, retirement communities, jets, yachts & cruise ships around the world.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, July 2019, Message from the Chairman

Steven FerryMessage from the Chairman

by Steven Ferry

Drug and alcohol abuse are a large problem in our profession, usually with principals, their family, or friends, but sometimes also with staff or vendors.

The Institute was asked to hire a butler for an extremely well-known individual. We were about to present four options when our due-diligence research finally paid off: We were suspicious there was a drug element involved, but the Internet showed the individual to be squeaky clean. We then asked around and finally found someone who had worked for this principal before. One of the (unwritten) butler duties was to take drugs around (on a tray!) during the numerous parties and to consume these drugs himself or herself, together with the rest of the staff. We immediately cancelled the contract with the client and told the relieved candidates that the job was no longer an option.

An extreme example?

Perhaps—but then ever since Roman, wine-induced orgies, some amongst the wealthy have indulged in such excesses, so it is not a new problem. But is it a solved one; do we know how to deal with this very real issue?

Read The Butlers Speak to find out what some of your colleagues were willing to share about their experiences and what resources you may be able to call upon in the event you find yourself in such a position.

One estate manager did not want to talk about it: “I have had experience in this area – professionally and personally. I choose not to go into any details. While you and your co-workers feel it is an important issue to discuss and address, I’ve experienced and/or observed emotional conflicts, verbal and physical abuse, destructive behavior, isolation, denial, fear, severe anxiety, etc. None of it is easy to watch, live through, and cope with on a daily basis.”

Our sympathies are with this individual—nobody likes having to face or talk about unpleasant subjects, but there is an old adage: “The way out is the way through.” Meaning that by facing something unpleasant and talking about it to someone else, the upset comes to the surface, and magically, if the person listening is being helpful, the upset melts away and solutions start to appear. So collectively, let’s try it!

The Institute is dedicated to raising service standards by broadly disseminating the mindset and superior service expertise of that time-honored, quintessential service provider, the British Butler, updated with modern people- skills, and adapted to the needs of modern employers and guests in staffed homes, luxury hotels, resorts, spas, retirement communities, jets, yachts & cruise ships around the world.