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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, January 2019, Letters to the Editor

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“I wanted to also say your ongoing newsletters are not only most valuable but also that I anticipate their arrival.” SM

“I’m still loving the monthly newsletters.” RH

Ed: Thanks to both of you, and the many others who expressed similar sentiments toward the end of the year. For better or worse, we’ll keep producing the MBJs!

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, December 2018, Letters to the Editor

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“May I please ask what you think of the Butler Academy in the Netherlands?” MH

Ed: I am afraid I cannot provide any up-to-date information, as I have not been there (assuming you are referring to The International Butler Academy) for about 15 years. Best bet is to ask some recent graduates. If you ask TIBA, I am sure they will point you in the direction of successful and happy graduates. You might want to ask them how many people have not graduated, or have not found positions after graduating, and what percentage that would be of the total. If the percentage is low, then that would speak of a successful program. One thing I can say is that they have been training butlers for a long time, and that means something!

“May I tell you how terrific your organization is and what a great service it provides for seasoned professionals as well as newcomers to the field—creating a way for new service-personnel to thrive. Thank you for all of your time and effort: It is obvious you really care about our industry: The wealth of information I have gained from the newsletter since subscribing over 8 years ago has refined my skills and contributed to my success.

“I remember reading your bylaws and thinking ‘I need the courage to confront this situation in my work, and everything I stand for is outlined in this Code of Ethics.’ I downloaded that document and, with my membership certificate, spoke to my employer regarding the problem that was unfolding. I read directly from the paperwork as a lead-in to what I suspected was happening on the property, and even though I hurt my client with the truth, I kept not only my dignity but also, thankfully, my position. There has since been a new bond between the family and I, because I had the courage to speak up. In great appreciation… ” DS

Ed: Thank you so much for sharing your success, and for your kind words: We are very happy indeed to be able to be of service to the world’s top service professionals.

“Another year is coming to an end and I want to thank you personally for a wonderful year of the Modern Butlers Journal and all the hard work that went into it. I have certainly been thrilled to be part of it whenever we are called upon to do so. I have gained from, and enjoyed, reading the journal each and every month: Long may it last my good man! I would like to wish you and yours a Happy Holiday season and may 2109 hold all the things you wish for.” PB

Ed: Thanks so much for the kind words: We endeavour to keep going, and obviously, you and our peers help make it all possible.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, November 2018, Letters to the Editor

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“I read one of your books, Butlers & Household Managers: 21st Century Professionals, and found it to be packed full of useful information and applicable tips, even for those of us not working in the same industry. I will be working on implementing some of them at work in the healthcare industry, and hope to inspire others to do the same.” KS

Ed: Thank you for making our day—our goal is to export the superior service fundamentals of the butler to all service industries, and you are the first individual reaching out and connecting from the health care industry. We wish you much success as you spearhead superior service in your field. On a personal note, if ever I needed an EMT, I would want someone as solicitous as you!

“Well done! A very nice summary and caution for what training cannot do, yet is often still expected to be done by those who do not take the time to perform a thorough assessment of the underlying issues. Adding some complexity to the matter, those who are often the only ones in a position to perform the assessment (estate manager or estate owner) will oftentimes insist upon and order training, thus diverting attention away from any issues they themselves may be creating. Naturally, the staff follows orders and goes to training, and keeps quiet. Those estates with open 360-degree feedback opportunities for all staff, however, allow management honestly to become aware of (and be held accountable for) their own performances, as well.” JG

Frank Mitchell: Thank you for your kind remarks. You make a valid point and unfortunately there is no easy answer. In the less structured arena of the private household, it may be difficult to pinpoint where the fault lies and in my experience, 360-degree feedback is not effective in a mismanaged environment. Whenever I am faced with this situation in the hospitality industry, I am reminded once again why a well-structured training system is so useful—it closes all the loopholes.

The need for training is indicated through the Training Needs Analysis process. This need not be complicated. What is it the staff will be able to do after training that they cannot do now? Before-and-after tests will show the efficacy of the training intervention. Once competency has been demonstrated to predetermined standards, performance in the workplace becomes more a management and motivational issue than a training issue.

Even if a properly setup training system is not in place, surely the manager must be held accountable for money spent? Training is expensive and the principle should expect a return on investment. Student feedback is insufficient—the training must be shown to work. If the team members have all been trained and yet are all struggling, probably the issue is elsewhere. If the manager is obstinate, they may go through several trainers, but eventually they must show results or the truth will out. Unfortunately, by that time many good staff members may well have been lost. Where it is the estate owner creating issues, I would expect low morale and a high staff turnover.

 

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, October 2018, Letters to the Editor

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“I have been placed in a situation that I am uncertain how to deal with, and I sincerely hope you can provide me with some direction. My principal is celebrating a milestone birthday this year and has decided to have a lavish event and invite family, friends and co-workers. The principal informed me yesterday that he’d like me to participate in an on-camera interview later this evening to share ‘anecdotes, roast him, funny stories’ and anything else that would be amusing. I find this to be a great conflict of interest as I am the only member of the household staff who has been asked to participate and I would desperately like to decline. However, my principal is very insistent that this will be a fun experience.

“I tried wrapping my head around this last night, but every instance I think of that could be considered funny involves personal situations that I do not 1) feel comfortable discussing in such a public setting, and 2) what about the NDA I signed? Even if I keep my response flattering and paint him in a gracious light, I think I will sound like a paid advertisement amongst his friends and family who will undoubtedly roast him. I feel that my participation in this is setting me up to fail. If you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.”

Ed: What an interesting conundrum. My thought, if I were in your position, would be to list the stories/anecdotes I would like to mention, and fly them by the principal with reference to the NDA and also his willingness for these incidents to be aired publically. If he is fine on these being mentioned, then on the basis that they would include some roasting, per his invitation, you could not be accused of offering a puff piece. But at the same time, the way you express them would still allow you to relay the experiences and perceptions with grace, as befits a) your position, b) your personality, c) your employer’s feelings, and d), your continued employment! Either the employer really does want an open forum, with himself as the butt of the jokes, or he has not really thought the thought through. Flying the incidents you’d like to mention by him will give him a chance to reconsider in the cold light of day.

“Thank you very much for your quick reply and brilliant suggestion. I did as you recommended and unfortunately, my principal did not reply before my interview. I decided to make some small attempts at humor and was otherwise very discreet in my responses to the questions asked by the interviewer. My principal has still not replied to my email and I think, if anything, it’s allowed him to see the situation he placed me in and explain my reluctance to participate.  It will be interesting to see if my interview is pulled from the others or if anything I say makes the cut. Thank you again for your assistance.”

Ed: I think you played it well: not burning any bridges while, at the same time, playing along with your employer’s wishes. I hope you make the cut.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, September 2018, Letters to the Editor

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An email was sent to the editor relaying an unfortunate article that was published last month. It conveyed the idea that luxury hotels were stalking their guests in maintaining a guest database. This idea is disconcerting, given that both private and hospitality butlers are encouraged to compile such guest profiles in order to wow their employers and guests.Suffice to say, the examples given were of the actions by owners and employees not trained in the sensibilities of the butler, and the author was quite correct in showing that they had overstepped the boundaries. Perhaps it would have been better if she had put the weird efforts to wow guests in context, making it clear that they represent a minority of overzealous actions taken in poor taste, or not thinking the thought through in terms of the effect they would likely have on the target guest or their family/friends.

Where one oversteps the bounds regarding not just privacy, but also the product or caper one does produce, it draws attention to the inappropriateness of what was noted about the guest and done in order to impress them, so ruining the wow effect.

There is a difference between a) active spying followed by hitting them over the head repeatedly with one’s use of the material garnered; and b) careful observation of things that guests say and do, and acting discreetly to please them. Perhaps governments today set a bad example with their “Total Information Networks” and these personnel slid down a slippery slope, becoming creepy spies instead of respectful and solicitous service professionals. In essence, there is no substitute for a fine sense of sensibility.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, August 2018, Letters to the Editor

Steven Ferry

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“I am confident that you may help me eliminate my nagging ignorance of the name of the measuring tool that is shown in the attached picture. Would you know what it is called, and whether the name is identical in all (or most) English speaking countries?” B

When told it looked like a slide rule and asked how he came across it, the reader said he had learned from other channels that it was called “a double-graduated, cross timber, or carpenters’ marking-gauge, which is used in woodworking. The small metal pins are meant to scratch a mark on a piece of wood.

“It was used during my training at The International Butler Academy and was very useful to push the plates and cutlery from the edge of the table to the desired distance from the edge (with the wooden center pin). Plates may be too high to be pushed with the butler stick (1″ x 1″ x 3′). Stored in a drawer in the dining room, the bulkiness was not really bothering. The small metal pins have no use; I would actually remove them, were I to own them myself.”

Ed: We thought we would share this piece of information, although we consider such a bulky item cannot be easy to maneuver around a table full of delicate china and crystal; and apart from the benefit of being able to push items using the center pin, it seems the time-honored butler’s stick would do the job with greater ease. For the desired “pushing” function, we have found a small “L-shaped” support for a shelf, to be most adequate and convenient. 

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“It is nice to see that since you have started these interactive articles, the newsletter has become more informative and it looks like more people respond to it. Bravo! One point of criticism is the format it comes in: I find it more difficult to read now it is sent in “chapters,” which results in opening an article and having to return to the e-mail for the next one. Maybe I haven’t fully understood how it is supposed to work, but as I have said before I am a bit of a computer illiterate.” AB

Web master: I understand the difficulty, thank you (and thank you for the compliment, too). This is quite easy to work around. In the e-mail you receive, click on the “See the Modern Butlers Journal in your browser” above the masthead. This will open the same content, but in your default browser. Now, I don’t know what browser you normally use but this works in Microsoft Edge (previously known as Internet Explorer), as well as Google Chrome, and Mozilla Firefox: Click on ALL “Read more…” links by pressing the CTRL button at the same time. This will open each article in a new tab (thus, if there are 10 articles in the MBJ, you will have 10 new tabs). Normally, the tab next to the current tab is the first article, and the tab at the furthest right is the last article. If you read each article and close the tab after finishing, the browser will normally take you to the next tab/article. I hope this suggestion helps!

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I am interested in making the career transition to butling over the next few years and so attending butler school, as I have no domestic experience. I am impressed by how in-depth your site is and recently read your article on finding a first domestic position. From your experience, how good is The International Butler Academy, can it help me transition into butling, and what is a typical starter position for a new entrant into butling? JM

Ed: TIBA is as good as any of the schools, and you could do a lot worse. I do not know how it is now, but speak of my experience teaching there as a visiting professor 15 years ago. Such a school is not your only, but probably your best shot at entering the profession as a career changer. TIBA does try to place its graduates, so that is a plus. You might be lucky and find a butler position (or Household Manager, same thing basically) straight off, or might have to take a (rare) under-butler position. Or you might need to work as a hotel butler for a bit to show that at least you are familiar with the service world. It might be a good idea, before you plop down 15K for a course, if you were to plop down $150 and read the two-volume Serving the Wealthy book to get a better feel of what it takes to work for high-end clients. You are obviously digging into the web site, and that is a start, but the book will give a more complete picture. That might confirm for you the direction you want to take, or it might put you off and save you $15K and two months of earning power. After that, you might also consider doing the online course we run, if you are looking at transitioning in a few years. It can be done while working and only costs $2,500, taking about 400 hours to do, or 4 hours a week over two years, let’s say. If you were to do that, and then do TIBA, you would have two certificates and the depth of knowledge available from the online course plus the hands-on/field trips available from TIBA. That is what one of our current students is doing—he just completed two weeks at the Rick Fink school in England, which gave him hands-on, face-to-face field experience that complemented our online course very well. I am not trying to sell you stuff, just offer a bit of advice for an optimum outcome for you, based on my understanding of your situation—if I have it wrong, I apologize.

“You are very perceptive—I shall order the books as you suggested for a feel of the high-end service world. and taking the online course before a brick-and-mortar school to help solidify my knowledge. Thanks for clarifying a realistic path towards becoming a butler. I just noticed that TIBA now has butlering internships. What are the differences between butlers, personal assistants, and household managers? There seems to be an overlap since the TIBA diploma certifies you to be a butler, household manager, and personal assistant, and the duties do seem to overlap.” JM

Ed: I am very glad to learn that TIBA is providing internships. In which case, that would add greatly to their value when you decide on the school you wish to attend. The original butler school was Sir Ivor Spencer’s in London and he billed the school as covering Butlers, HMs, and PAs. Since the downsizing of staff began a century ago, the butler has taken on various hats that used to belong to one particular trade—such as valet. Hence, it is best to be trained as, and able to operate as, butler/HM and PA. And chef. And chauffeur. And even master gardener….etc. The more skills, the more of a valuable commodity you will be and easier to fit into the requirements of a greater number of prospective employers. As for the difference between butlers/butler administrators and HMs/EMs, they are just the UK versus US titles for what amounts to roughly the same duties. A butler administrator is like an EM and HM, but a butler title on its own generally refers to the old style, formal butler who managed the guests, visitors, food and wine, without the administrative duties of running the whole household. A PA, of course, works directly for the principal and is not responsible for the management of the estate at all.

 

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, July 2018, Letters to the Editor

Steven Ferry

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In response to the Chairman’s Message about the series of royal butlers talking to the media about their past employers:

“Very well and tastefully said.” AM

“I totally endorse your comments: Professional butlers, in the majority, value and maintain discretion. The few who speak out inappropriately discredit themselves for little gain apart from short term notoriety.” PS

“I cannot agree more and I appreciate your positive note about the majority: A smile is always an achievement!” SP

“As always, I have enjoyed the last news letter, especially Butlers in the Media. You hit the nail on the head with your comments and l enjoy your steadfast way of cutting to the chase. I’m often saddened by the way so many people are quick to open their mouths all for the sake of a few quick bucks—even if for some it is not a few. But how can someone put a price on their self worth, pride, and commitment to their career. Sure, we have all been in a position where we have thought, “If only the outside world knew what this person or family is ‘really like.'” But for me, and I hope for many more of us, I could never put a price on the betrayal and what it would bring not only to the employer, but more to the point, me/us. We are given jobs, we are given trust, then when something goes wrong, it is all lost. As you mentioned, it’s about maintaining standards: I hate it when the standard slips, because once it does, there is often no returning.” PB

Ed: Thanks to all for the feedback: The silent majority has spoken!

“I agree wholeheartedly. The key word is ‘professional’. As a professional, there are things you do and do not do. To soil one’s name and reputation so carelessly is shameful. Who would ever hire individuals without character? I remember many years after leaving an employment, I was asked to be interviewed on television to talk about working for my previous employer. They were famous and known throughout the world and had recently passed on. I did what should be considered the norm. I called my previous family and gave them all the information regarding the interview so they could decide if this would be acceptable to them. After all, the interview would be about my previous employer’s stories, not my own. They are not my stories to share without permission. Everything worked out, the family said to proceed with the interview. No one was surprised and everyone was happy. It was a win, win, win situation. All we have in this industry is our name and reputation. It should be guarded with care.” HB

Ed: Thank you for sharing a wonderful story to illustrate the point. Imagine, if every butler called upon by the media, acted as responsibly?

Two readers offered their thoughts on why some butlers may give in to the temptation to tell all:

“Perhaps the temptation to speak out by butler staff who serve high-profile employers exists because a) their renumeration is less than satisfactory for the responsibilities they are required to maintain; or perhaps b) they have an ego and desire to share the fleeting limelight of celebrity which is neither enduring nor sustaining. However, I am more inclined to consider c) not nearly enough to do to fruitfully occupy their time.” AK

“Could it possibly be that a butler becoming a tattle tale, might be caused by insufficient salary and separation remuneration, requiring the individual to market something they should not, in order to stay afloat? Just a speculation….” PH

Ed: Gentlemen, thank you for your input. While I appreciate your playing devil’s advocate and I do acknowledge that inequities exist, I posit that no butler would ever resort to the professionally suicidal and dishonorable route of “telling all” unless a) they were not really butler material to start with, and b) they had decided the profession was not for them. Of course, for them to react by “telling all” shows they are not thinking clearly, but driven by impulses that have increased in strength and over which they have lost control—none of which would happen if they had clean hands, an open heart, and believed in themselves. It is usually simple enough to hand in a resignation and maintain the high ground when confronted with conflicted employers. On the point of not having enough to do, I would agree with that, although I do not see it as the basic cause, more as a symptom of their fall from grace.

In response to last month’s The Butlers Speak:

“Again, I can not thank you enough for the wealth of information from these butlers and household managers. Recently, I had to tell my employer that the estate/property manager, who had been there for 19 years, was mishandling money. I had been on the property as a household manager for four years and it took me 3 1/2 years to figure out what the estate manager was doing. I suggested that the company accountant do some forensic accounting regarding the matter. Never an easy conversation—I have only ever had to fire one person before for stealing from a property I worked on. Unfortunately, this estate manager lost his job. I wonder if anyone else has been in this kind of difficult situation. It could have gone either way: They could have let me go, which I would have been fine with, since I think of myself as someone with high integrity and ethics. The new facilities manager is from the home office and has been with the company for fourteen years: I am thrilled to be working with someone who respects the property and its owners.” DS

Ed: Well done on grabbing the bull by the horns and stopping its rampage.

“Thank you for your time and efforts for those of us in the world of private service.” RC

In response to the question of butler salaries in the Letters to the Editor last month

“Regarding your comments on salary, yes, there is a range. I, for one, am very lucky, but I also work jolly hard for every cent I earn. People should also note, if there is a “very high salary” offered, they might want to tread very carefully—there is a reason for that high figure, and it probably does not forecast a cake walk by any stretch of the imagination. SIr, your insight and nurturing is invaluable to us all, young and old, and the reason why we need you at the helm of the MBJ—keep up the good work, as always.” PB

Ed: Most kind of you, Sir. Until someone draws up a hearse to the desk, the fingers will continue to hover over the keyboard.

 

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, June 2018, Letters to the Editor

Steven Ferry

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In the Times of London there was a nice little article about the salaries of household staff—maybe something for Butlers in the Media column? I must admit that I was still a little surprised by the numbers that were mentioned in the article. Soon after I left the Butler Academy, I realized that the beautiful salaries that were mentioned during our training course were more the exception than rule. Now, ten years later, few of my old colleagues have reached the salaries that were promised then; yet in many articles on our beautiful profession, these high figures are mentioned. What a contrast with this article in the Times!” AB

Ed: Thanks for catching this and for bringing this to my attention. I saw that The Telegraph also picked up on this Greycoat PR release.  I understand your disappointment, as the figures are low. One only has to see what HM (the Queen of England) pays her butlers to understand that we are talking about a lowly, minimum-wage position for the simple reason that butlers traditionally have been drawn from the “lower classes,” ex-military batmen, etc. The infamous Paul Burrell was a truck driver, as I understand it, before being taken on by The Palace.

However, the Modern Butler, which is what you were trained to be at The International Butler Academy, and its predecessor, The Ivor Spencer School in London, was breaking the mold and tradition by opening up the profession to career changers as well as college or university graduates. What we lost, by this sea change, in the depth of knowledge relating to a narrow range of duties gained by working one’s way up the ranks from Hall Boy to Butler, we gained in having more-educated and – possibly – more intelligent individuals with a wider range of skills, joining the work force. As the role of butler morphed into that of Butler/Steward in the 19th Century, managing the whole estate or multiple estates, the butler gained value and thus set up members of the profession to eventually be able to command a higher, more managerial salary after a century (things do move slowly in our profession, no?).

As you know, the duty of a butler can range from simply managing visitors, food and beverage service in a smaller household, to being an estates manager. Just as a CEO is paid more than a departmental head, so we have a wide salary range for butlers today depending on their duties and role, as well, obviously, as the expectations regarding salary of the employer or their agent. Obviously, the people that Greycoat placed/interviewed, have lower roles in part; but also, perhaps, are being placed with people who still think of their butlers as low-wage earners.

So, just because one agency puts out one report (I have not received a copy, so cannot comment on their analysis) and multiple newspapers pick up on it, does not mean that the information is accurate for the whole profession everywhere. Nor that those promising higher salaries have taken liberties with the truth. I understand it seems that the higher salaries are the exception rather than the rule when looking at your fellow students: It has been a long time since I trained at TIBA, so I do not recall what was being said then, but I would think that “up to” $150,000 or whatever the figure given, was how it was phrased.

As such it is true, but omits facts: such as the fact that the UK traditionally pays a relative pittance, for the reasons given above; and butlers from third-world countries working in the Middle East, are paid a pittance, too. One has to go to the US, or be hired by a Russian or Ukrainian or an Italian Prince, for instance, to find the higher salaries.

Fifteen years ago, I was offered a position in the US managing many (almost 30) estates and paying $350,000 with all the usual benefits. As I am not motivated by money, I declined: there was a reason for the attractive salary, and to me, life is too short to expend energies unattractively—and apart from which, we were just starting the International Institute of Modern Butlers and I was not looking for a position in service.

The Institute occasionally provides placement services, and so we see what employers are willing to pay in the US for a properly trained/experienced butler—$120-150,000 is quite normal. The highest we saw offered was $500,000, the client wanting the butler to manage his portfolio, too, requiring some experience/training as an investment- or stockbroker. This is the extreme end of the salary range, but it does show that these higher salaries do exist. Perhaps this is what the Greycoat report failed to mention, thereby adding to the general view in the private-service field in England that butlers are low-waged workers.

In other words, an own goal if we view Greycoat as being on the butler team, which they are not necessarily, representing their clients as well as other positions. If they can procure competent butlers for a pittance for their clients, then their clients win, but the butlers in their files not necessarily so. Our view is that all parties should win.

As with any trade or profession, there are those who add value to their offerings, work hard, and reap the rewards, and those who are quite content with the way things are. I personally think that it is up to us as a profession to raise the value of our profession in the eyes of our potential employers, as well as raising our value as individuals through ongoing training, etc.

The day we think the status quo is fine, or that we cannot do anything about it, that day we cease to grow and improve.

Which is why I thank you for bringing this article to my attention! I would like to publish this letter and response in the next MBJ (anonymously for you), so we can help our potential employers (and those who find staff for them) understand that the CEO of their home deserves a CEO’s salary, given the value of the home’s occupants and trinkets. One last point: I have no idea of actual inflation in the UK, but I can say that the real value of the dollar has halved in the US over the last decade, given the profligate and unfortunate expansion of the money supply out of tandem with the value of goods in circulation, meaning that there is even more reason to increase wages and salaries.

“Thank you for your prompt and extensive reply. It is indeed interesting to see that in some households the butler’s role has changed over the years, and with that the salary of a few of them. And luckily, more and more employers realize that it costs a few pennies more to have educated and higher quality staff.

“But as you describe in your letter, there are enormous differences in the offered salaries. On one side, the new billionaires offer enormous salaries, and on the other, there are many employers expecting too much for too little. It is just very confusing for those new to the industry, and even for the more experienced who are looking for a new position. What can one ask for his/her services?

“When I started with my current employers, they offered a very low starting salary but promised to raise it as I gained their trust and the way I developed within my role. Within eight years, my salary was five times as high, and I consider myself very lucky in both my role and salary, so there are no complaints from my side. I just find it very difficult to answer questions about the salary to new butlers contacting me.” AB

Ed: Well done for 5xing your salary in eight years by dint of demonstrating your worth. In itself, that is a good answer for anyone asking. And maybe my last answer provides the way to tackle the subject, too.

I would put it like this: “Do not start with an inflated idea of your worth, but equally, do not accept a deflated idea of it in your employer, if they offer low with no promise of a timely adjustment as you prove yourself. Politely decline the position and keep looking.”

As for what salary beginners should ask, I would follow the lead of the agency in knowing the market and estimating your value. If the market in a particular area does not remunerate well, then either seek work in another market, or hold out for a well-enough paid position while using the time to improve your value.

You began this communication with the focus on money, thanks to the media’s fascination with money (and six other torrid subjects, such as sex and violence—always guaranteed to spawn an article or a series of articles), but in fact, the more important question when starting, is finding a position at all to place your foot in the door and build your resume.

I would not be too demanding about salary in this case. When I started as an Estate Manager/butler in England, it was at the princely sum of 50 GBP, plus house and car, for a 5.5-day work week. That is just over 2,500 GBP per annum, which makes the 45K quoted in the article quite generous! When I emigrated to the US the following year, I found a job immediately and it paid $40,000 plus a custom-built and even-better house and car, and health insurance! As that was three decades ago, the value in 2018 dollars is probably closer, in purchasing power, to an $80,000 salary today. Right there, that shows the difference between modern perceptions of value versus Old World perceptions.

So there is hope for those just starting, but my advice to them (and maybe yours, too, based on your experience?) is to stay focused on learning and servicing, because the money will look after itself.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, May 2018, Letters to the Editor

Steven Ferry

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“Thank you for the recent article: It’s nice to know I’m not alone in my experiences with guests—I  have found some older guests prefer me to be more conversational/helpful.” AKH

The Institute is dedicated to raising service standards by broadly disseminating the mindset and superior service expertise of that time-honored, quintessential service provider, the British Butler, updated with modern people skills, and adapted to the needs of modern employers and guests in staffed homes, luxury hotels, resorts, spas, retirement communities, jets, yachts & cruise ships around the world.

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The Modern Butlers’ Journal, April 2018, Letters to the Editor

Steven Ferry

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Dear Editor, I thought the screenplay for Gosford Park was exceptional: It had almost non-stop dialogue that was all very good including a few almost hidden gems and jokes that I didn’t hear until my 8th time through it. The first time I saw it was on its last day in the theaters and I admired it despite not understanding much of the accent and confusing the characters. This failure to understand it bothered me, but didn’t stop me from admiring the costumes, sets, editing, acting, script, etc. Recently, I purchased a copy of the movie and cleared many words resulting in a heightened admiration for the movie. I have almost sorted out who’s who and written a glossary as best I could. The items I am particularly interested in your reviewing, because I could not find definitions that fit, are:

Bate, as in a  “He’s in a bate and I know why.” Ed: “Bate” is dated English (1850s originally) meaning “an angry mood,” from how a person feels when they are being baited or tormented. 

Cockneywhat exactly did it mean after World War I? Ed: Cockney is the dialect spoken by people from East London, or refers to the people speaking such a dialect. It meant the same before World War I. 

Jimmey/Jemmy— and was “Jemmy” a misspelling in the subtitles? “Jemmy was used as a pet form of James two centuries ago. Unless it is referring to a crowbar used by thieves for opening windows and doors—without the context, I cannot say which it might be.

Marquess/Marquis. Ed: The former is a variant of the latter, below a Duke, above an Earl. 

Still room. Ed: Three centuries ago, it was where a still was kept for the distillation of perfumes and cordials. Later, about two centuries ago, it was used by the housekeeper of a large house to store jams, cakes, liqueurs, and for preparing coffee and tea.

Table of Precedence. Ed:  Depending on the context, it would be the plan for the seating of family and guests at a formal dinner, or the seating arrangement itself, with the host at the head of the table and the guest of honor to his right, and increasingly lower ranks the further from the host. The same applied to the staff dining table, where the butler sat at the head, the Housekeeper to his left, and so on.

Is the Butler senior to the Housekeeper and the Head Cook? Ed: Yes.

Do the Housekeeper and the head cook have equal rank? Ed: Probably equal, depending on the house, with the housekeeper possibly being the more senior, but each being senior over the other staff in their own area.

I know George is the First Footman, but are the other servants who help set the table and serve dinner footmen as well? Yes. First, second, and third footmen, with an under-butler above them all.

Do I have the rankings correct for Britain? You have them all correct except for “Count.” You have it noted by”Earl” but “Count” I believe to be a German title. You may be confused because the Earl of Grantham’s wife is referred to as “Countess,” but her husband is referred to as “Earl,” not “Count.” 

Thank you, SH

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“I really love your newsletters and have benefited from them immensely over the years.” DS

Ed: Thank you for taking the time to comment—the MBJ is a labor of love and it helps to know we are hitting the spot!

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Dear Editor, I would like to express my interest in the internship for the Institute. My availability is from June 21st, 2018. Please see the attached graduate profile binder for your reference. AK

Ed: Thank you for your enquiry regarding an Internship, and congratulations on completing your butler training at TIBA. The only internship possibility we are aware of at the moment is at Blenheim Palace in the United Kingdom, where they occasionally have an opening for a butler intern. I would recommend that you contact them directly to find out if they have a current opening, and submit your resume to them via their website.  If you scroll further down on that page, you’ll see they mention Apprenticeships and there is a button for you to click on. Best of luck with that submission and your career.

 

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